Hello

[arhmt9]

I guess I should introduce myself since I have been posting for the past few days:wiggle: I actually didn't even see the introduction forum until now.

My name is Annetta. I live in Kansas City, Missouri which is in the U.S.
I am 32 years old. I have a degree in Computer Science and I am a software engineer for a company that makes software for hospitals. Right now my hobbies are reading, self development, travelling and jogging.

I first started going to therapy when I was 14. Then I quit for quite awhile. I found a fabulous therapist and started back up again about 6 years ago. She really helped me A LOT and it was a great experience. I still feel like I have some work to do and honestly will probably work on self development and self awareness all my life since I am very drawn to it.

I recently quit going to my therapist as I feel I have come to the end of the line with her. Currently I am reading books and listening to cd's from Debbie Ford and Louise Hay. I plan to go to one of Debbie Ford's workshops next month which will be very scary but very fun too.

One of my problems is that I tend to constantly be working on myself. Whether it is therapy and self development or my career or my physical appearance, etc.. and I never feel good enough. I'm never good enough for myself.

So my goal for this year is "Self Love" and I plan on doing some really fun things that just make me really happy. I plan on doing some things where I am truly living in the moment. This year is going to be the best year of my life.

[Jenny]

Welcome to the forum Annetta :)

Thank you for introducing yourself.. sounds like you have a real pull towards self development and that's certainly something i can relate to. I find it hard sometimes when i see people around me (e.g. my mum!) who have no self awareness in the slightest, but they do seem happy that way. I guess everyone is different :)

Am glad that therapy was useful for you and that you have some hobbies and goals for yourself. I don't think there's anything wrong in continually trying to develop yourself... it's a bit like Maslow's hierarchy of needs and self actualisation. I'm not sure if it's ever truly possible, but we can try huh!

I look forward to seeing you around the forum
:hug:
Jenny xx

[arhmt9]

Thanks Jenny! Great to be here.:happyno:

[Daisychain]

Hello Annetta,

Welcome to hope at sunrise :)

I am glad you found us!!

[Nellie]

Hi Annetta

I appreciate what you mean about constantly working on self-awareness etc and sometimes I feel I have focused too much on trying to work intensely on my self, when I could just be smelling the roses!!!

Its all about self-acceptance I suppose and it seems that you are going to take this next year to just enjoy being you - and...I think thats probably the main aim of all therapy.....to value and accept where and who you are, right now.

[brighteyes]

Welcome to the forum Annetta. I am glad to hear you found therapy so effective for you. There is nothing wrong with interest in self improvement as long as it is not an unhealthy obsession. We can all afford to improve ourselves in one way or another. The thirst for knowledge can be a good thing. :)