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Ants
28th April 2009, 06:14 AM
Hello. I am not sure why I am here. Looking for companionship I guess. I came from the other forum. I went there originally because I was on the edge. Way out on the edge. Then I found that there were people there that were going through many of the battles I had already been through. I found that I could give them encouragement and in return, I was able to put my problems in perspective... mostly. I know that when this particular trainwreck in my life is over I'll just pick up the pieces and start over again.

"What trainwreck?" You might ask. My wife of 22 years and companion of 28 years left me. It wasn't another relationship, for that I could at least hate her. I do not know why. In my world we had a decent marriage, better than I grew up with for sure. I raised her two children as my own since they were 1 1/2 and 3. Even they don't understand what happened. I blame it on menopause... it's the only thing that allows me to make any sense of it.

My best friend is my daughters friend. She just went through a divorce recently so she has a lot of compassion for me, and she puts up with my flirting with her, for whatever reason that helps, and she is there to give me support however she can. God I don't want to start over!

Then a few weeks ago I lost my job. I drove truck. I had an accident in our parking lot. No one was hurt but in these times it was enough for them to let me go. Oh Well.

Alcohol has become my escape. I have always liked to party, but always kept it in perspective. Now with no balance in my life, I can at least depend on alcohol to be consistant.

Well, that's the current trainwreck. As I said there have been a few, well maybe more than a few. Whatever. It's just getting harder to find the motivation to carry on. Being with people who are also in crisis seems to help.

Jenny
28th April 2009, 08:44 AM
Hi Ants and first of all welcome to the forum

I'm so sorry for all that you've been through and still are going through. It sounds so difficult and i'm really glad that you found this forum and hope it helps.

I wish i had some words that could help make things better for you but all i can offer is companionship and an ear (or eye?) should you want to talk some more if it helps.

I look forward to seeing you around the forums but in the meantime take good care of yourself
Jenny x

mdmefontaine
28th April 2009, 04:02 PM
hi, i'm new too.
i'm also on the 'other' forum, maybe the same one as yourself : )

i am sorry for your situation, i have been through a similiar one, though we were not together as long. it is similiar in that i cannot figure out WHY.

am trying to rebuild.

i hope you are able to make a new life, and find happiness. i am glad you came here - welcome from a newbie :hug:

Daisychain
29th April 2009, 12:15 AM
Welcome to the forum Ants :)

I hope you like it here!

Katmandu40
29th April 2009, 04:39 AM
Welcome Ants! Sorry you are having so much trouble! I hate to sound like a prude, but booze isn't the answer hun. It's a depressant and can lead you to deeper depression. I know it feels like it helps numb you...but it really can make things worse in the long run!

I hope you find the forum helpful...keep talking! :hug:

brighteyes
2nd June 2009, 01:37 PM
:welcome: to the forum. I hope things begin to turn around for you, but this can't happen if you turn to alcohol as an escape. Do what it takes to take care of yourself. I know jobs are tough to come by these days. Don't be afraid to get back out there. Best of luck. :)