what is safe to talk about

[kfunk01]

So... I am curious if I can bring my cutting up to my counselor... I haven't done it in a long time like about 3 months. But I get these urges still where I get so close so on the edge... I just feel like I have to cut. I had worn a shirt that didn't cover up my cuts very well one day and I had several people including a counselor ask what it was from... I lied and said it was my puppy we were ruff housing... Can I like take that stuff back... What can this change in my relationship with my counselor? I feel like I can't keep lying about this stuff.... Anyone.... Or will she just think I am nuts and send me to the loony bin.... :D :doh:

[TDM]

You need to ask her about confidentiality. I can't really answer that question as it would depend on your age (if you're a minor then would the counsellor be obligated to tell your parents, or if its a school counsellor do teachers have to know about it and so on). But because you haven't cut in about three months it can change things slightly, and put you at a lower risk. It depends entirely on the counsellor, and how and where you're seeing your counsellor.

Sorry... I realise that it's not really answered your question, but I can't really say that it's safe or not... because it depends on those above mentioned things.

TDM

[kfunk01]

I am not a minor haven't been for a while... will it make a difference? My issue with telling her is that I also have been sort of in a slump for a while and the cutting just sort of came with it... I feel like it has been worse lately that is why I feel like I need to talk about it... But it won't like get me in trouble or anything will it? What could happen? Sorry Panicing... I don't meet her until like Monday but that doesn't seem so far away...

[Old Wolf]

I'm assuming from what you've said that this cutting is not an attempt at suicide?? but rather a way of releiving "inner pain" by the distraction of physical pain?? Why would it get you in trouble - what trouble had you in mind? As TDM says you can begin by discussing confidentiality with your counsellor and then when she has put your mind to rest on that (as I'm sure she will) expand what you tell her gradually and in line with what feels comfortable for you. She will probably expect some reticence initially - it takes time to build trust. Go for it - you'll be wondering what all the panic was about come Tuesday.

[ell]

I think you should tell her...if you're not a minor then it's highly unlikely she'll tell anyone else. And she has to know the full picture of your situation to help you. The more you tell your counsellor, the more honest you are, the more helpful counselling will be for you. Good luck.