Jenny
20th February 2009, 08:40 AM
I'm aware i've mentioned the word 'transference' a few times on the forum so thought I'd post a link to a proper explanation as to what is meant by transference. See Here (http://www.crisiscounseling.com/Articles/Transference.htm)
Transference can be really powerful (and painful) and happens with people in every day life. It's something every counsellor will be aware of and will look out for and work with. It's often part of the therapeutic process to transfer feelings towards other people, e.g. parents, on to your therapist.. it can then be identified, worked through and hopefully more positive experiences had.
So for example when i was in therapy i was adamant that my therapist was judging me. Whenever she asked me a question i was very careful before anwering because i wanted to get the 'right' answer. She'd ask me how i was feeling and i'd make sure i chose either 'mad, bad, sad or glad' but it wasn't until months later (and i do mean months) that we spoke about my belief.. she challenged it.. i opened up and i eventually realised that she was not my dad! She was not there to judge me or catch me out.. in fact she was on my side. It was an amazing realisation and helped a lot in my learning and relationship with her. It's something that i've been able to take outside the therapy room also with people at work, etc.
Transference is incredibly powerful and amazing when we are able to spot it and work through it.
:grouphug:
Transference can be really powerful (and painful) and happens with people in every day life. It's something every counsellor will be aware of and will look out for and work with. It's often part of the therapeutic process to transfer feelings towards other people, e.g. parents, on to your therapist.. it can then be identified, worked through and hopefully more positive experiences had.
So for example when i was in therapy i was adamant that my therapist was judging me. Whenever she asked me a question i was very careful before anwering because i wanted to get the 'right' answer. She'd ask me how i was feeling and i'd make sure i chose either 'mad, bad, sad or glad' but it wasn't until months later (and i do mean months) that we spoke about my belief.. she challenged it.. i opened up and i eventually realised that she was not my dad! She was not there to judge me or catch me out.. in fact she was on my side. It was an amazing realisation and helped a lot in my learning and relationship with her. It's something that i've been able to take outside the therapy room also with people at work, etc.
Transference is incredibly powerful and amazing when we are able to spot it and work through it.
:grouphug: